Introduction
My BCM 241 Digital Artefact and Ethnographic research is on the topic of ASMR and the many forms it takes, as well as why I believe it is a very stigmatised or even taboo media niche. I’ve been super interested in exploring the concept of ASMR as a media niche for quite a while as I believe (although it is becoming increasingly popular) it is a heavily stigmatised subject. I think it is definitely a form of media that has sexual connotations that aren’t necessarily true, but has also been a form of media that has been drastically sexualised as well. It is also a subject that can be hard to explain to people who have no idea what it is and is difficult to understand for people who don’t or can’t experience it, thus causing a stigmatisation issue.
I think conducting ethnographic research on the ASMR community can help others to better understand the norms within the niche and also help to de-stigmatize the topic of ASMR in general. The online video communities like Youtube and thread forums like Reddit have facilitated a gathering of those who experience ASMR and as a result hundreds of videos and threads have been produced, viewed and shared with the goal of inducing this sensation. Gaining a better understanding of this community through ethnographic research may also help to uncover deeper scientific concepts behind the idea of ASMR and how it exactly induces relaxation.
ASMR and what it means to me
I stumbled upon ASMR videos on youtube probably around three years ago now and I have been addicted to them ever since. They allow me to become relaxed in a short amount of time and I tend not to sleep well until I’ve listened to my ASMR video of choice before bed. For those of you who don’t know what ASMR is or what it entails I will try my best to explain it for you.
ASMR, which stands for Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response is a sensation people get when they watch stimulating videos or experience certain visual or audio triggers in real life – usually ones that involve personal attention. Many people describe the feeling you get when you experience ASMR as “Tingles” that run through the back of someone’s head and spine. Many people say the feeling is deeply relaxing, and can even cause them to fall asleep. Though this is the case, many people do not feel the effects of ASMR and tend to dislike it. Thus making it a niche. The term ASMR (autonomous sensory meridian response) was only coined in 2010. Though the feeling of ASMR has been known for years and years, only recently has there been some scientific understanding and recognition. Although the vast majority of Youtubers started making ASMR videos in the 2010’s, all you need to do is take a look at Bob Ross’ “The Joy of Painting” to understand that this has been a niche for quite some time.
Stigmatisation of ASMR and my own experiences
As stated before, I have been an avid ASMR listener for quite some time now and although it is something I view on a regular basis and is quite normal for me, for a period of time I wasn’t completely sure if this was a normal niche to be interested in. I knew these types of videos relaxed me, but was it weird to listen to people whisper into mics in order to help me fall asleep? What would others think? It’s these sorts of questions that I believe are quite normal and asked regularly in the ASMR community. Researching this was quite easy. It didn’t take long to find various Reddit threads and a long list of ASMR videos on youtube titled things like; “What my parents think about my ASMR channel”, “What my friends think of ASMR” and “How not to care about what people think about ASMR”. This tells me that I, and many others are not alone in feeling self conscious about this niche.
At this point I feel I should establish that there is an opposite (if you will) to ASMR and that is Misophonia, It translates to the “hatred of sound.” Certain sounds might make you feel angry, annoyed, or upset. It’s extremely common to feel this for eating and mouth sounds. However, these sounds are also common triggers among the ASMR community, so ASMRtists will usually add a warning before these videos for people that can’t stand these sounds. I can attest to this, I absolutely hate sounds of eating and mouth sounds, but still enjoy a plethora of various ASMR triggers. The point I’m trying to make here though is that although people may not enjoy these sounds, they still choose to view this niche as bizarre or weird.
It is not the act of listening to ASMR that may feel weird or even seem embarrassing, but what others will think of us for watching these videos that causes these feelings. This is one of the main reasons why ASMR may seem like such a taboo topic. This is enhanced by the simple fact that some people don’t experience the relaxing sensations that others do when exposed to this content, their bodies simply don’t enable this relaxation to be felt or they experience Misophonia. This is where the lack of understanding and inability to recognise feelings that others experience, turns into confusion and then stigmatisation of the niche; Spencer Gerrol, a cognitive scientist and founder of neuroanalytics company Spark Neuro, speculates that people who say they dislike ASMR are actually not experiencers. “It begs the question: Are they just not experiencing it, and therefore, it’s just neutral to them?” he says. “Or, are they experiencing something that they choose to not like?”.
It can turn into a jealousy thing too; “You can experience ASMR which is apparently deeply relaxing and I can’t? Ok well you’re weird for watching it”, it’s this sort of mentality that I think is somewhat fair in applying to those that hate on the ASMR because it’s something that I myself have experienced and is sometimes deeply evident in many Reddit Forums. A quote from Reddit that isn’t as negative as above but still really encapsulates this idea has really highlighted these feelings of jealousy or feelings of potentially missing out on the experience; “At first I would get kind of jealous that he would just straight up ignore me to watch ASMR videos even when he wasn’t going to bed. It doesn’t really bother me in that way anymore. What does bother me is that I can’t experience the tingles and understand how it makes him feel. I’ll never be able to fully understand the tingles that he gets from flashing lights, tapping and crinkling sounds, roleplay videos and whispering. I feel like I’m missing out on something so interesting and intriguing.”
Sexualisation of ASMR
Diving deeper into ASMR and its varied connotations between people who watch regularly and those who don’t watch at all, comes the idea of sexulaisation. To many, including myself in the initial stages of getting into ASMR, the idea that this whispering deep into the ears or mouth sounds aspect of ASMR came off as some sort of weird sexual fetish was quite prominent. That being said, this isn’t the case, well mostly. For the most part ASMR isn’t meant to be sexual, it’s something deeply relaxing that can help with a multitude of problems like, anxiety, depression, insomnia etc. The goal is to make the viewer feel a deep sense of relaxation in whatever medium the artist desires; roleplays, personal attention, outdoor videos and many more.
The boundaries are often pushed though, but only recently has it been this way. In the early stages of ASMR creation on Youtube in the 2010’s, those making ASMR content solely strived to make relaxing videos for, at that point an extremely niche following. Sexualising or attempting to sexualise that content on Youtube would reinforce already very skeptical criticism of this content being published. With ASMR becoming more and more popular there is the point of view or criticism that some ASMRtists are only successful because they are attractive, because they sit on the line of sexual content or post suggestive thumbnails for their videos. There is also the criticism that after amassing a following on Youtube, ASMRtists are turning to websites like OnlyFans to capitalise on the potential oversexualisation of this niche.
Before addressing this, I believe I should detail my own experiences in the context of the sexualisation of this niche. I listen to ASMR solely to relax before bed. That being said, if there is a potential market to capitalise on (I believe there is) then I have no problem with artists using whatever means they can or making better money in pursuit of that goal. I do believe though that they should remain separate, and they will because Youtube has strict guidelines. This is simply due to the fact that sometimes people may wish to relax or go to sleep and some may wish to relax in the other way.
A very popular ASMRtist by the name of Heather Feather ASMR who frequents Reddit regularly has addressed these concerns multiple time; “So I think that’s why you see some people being so expressly against associating ASMR with sex. Not everyone is prude, anti-sex, or closed minded—I think some people are trying to protect something that’s in its infancy on Youtube from being written off as a softcore niche of porn, to protect the people creating videos from being harassed, and to protect their ability to be open about something awesome that they experience. Unfortunately, that protective vein can sometimes go too far, and they end up harassing content creators as well for not making videos to the standard they personally feel is acceptable. So you can simultaneously be harassed by people trying to sexualize your content AND people trying to vilify you, telling you your content is too sexual, or that you aren’t a “real” ASMRtist”. I think she sums up some of the issues fairly well and coming from a viewer’s perspective, I think most people who view ASMR purely for relaxation can get behind this statement. I think the key takeaway here is about respecting the Artist and what mediums they choose to use. People will sexualise what they want, it tends to be what humans do. If a particular artist wants to capitalise on that audience whether it be through Youtube or Patreon or even a move to OnlyFans, we as that audience must respect that Artist’s desires. You don’t have to support it, but respect is necessary.
Conclusion
Exploring the topic of ASMR as a niche has been something I’ve wanted to do for quite a while now. Diving into depth and detail of the stigmatisation and sexualisation of the subject has really opened my eyes to the subjectivity of this phenomenon we know as ASMR. I think the key takeaway from my Autoethnographic research is just how subjective we can be when applying our own personal beliefs to any given subject. Down to its most simple form, subjectivity in ASMR comes from what the audience experiences tingles from; whether it be personal attention, mouth sounds, etc – and equally this subjectivity comes from people who don’t experience ASMR and choose to bash people who find it interesting. This carries all the way through to the sexualisation of ASMR in which everybodies sexuality is subjective and in turn individual desire as to how far they are willing to see ASMR go, in terms of sexually pushing the boundaries can always change. Becoming an even more established member of my ASMR community has shown me why I’m so happy I was able to find this niche, ways to get more people interested in this type of content, a deeper understanding of why we watch ASMR and further tools necessary to conduct even more research into this topic that I love so much.
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